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There are certain times throughout the year that can be difficult for people who have suffered a loss. These can be national holidays or important dates such as birthdays, Mother’s Day is one of these days. In the run up, which can be for a good month before, the media is awash with advertisements reminding you of the approaching date and shops are filled with cards and gifts.

For someone who no longer has their mum this can be a difficult time of year. It doesn’t need to have been a recent bereavement, we all miss those we have been close to, and these can feel like direct reminders.

5 thoughtful ideas for Mother’s day for an adult who has lost their Mum

  • It doesn’t need to be anything extravagant, the acknowledgement that you realise it’s more difficult this time of year is helpful in itself. Just being there as a friend is one of the best ways to support someone.
  • Light a candle, send the bereaved a photo and let them know you are thinking of them.
  • A thoughtful card with some heartfelt words.
  • Flowers – everyone appreciates a floral gesture with a caring note attached.
  • A thoughtful bereavement gift, full of items to comfort the bereaved. You could make your own, put all of their favourite items in, or send a gift such as one our bereavement boxes, particularly useful if you don’t live locally.
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How to make Mother’s Day easier for a child who has lost their Mum

If it is a child who has lost their mum, Mother’s Day can be even more of a challenge for them. Think how hard you would find it as an adult, then imagine how a child would feel with less understanding of the situation, the world, and with less control of their emotions. Remember making cards and paper flowers at school for your Mum on Mother’s Day? Perhaps you have children now who do? This can be a heart-wrenching time for a child who is surrounded by peers making cards for their Mums and something I’m sure teacher’s tackle with great tenderness.

Depending on their age their friends probably won’t know how to provide support or aren’t even aware their friend has lost their mum. It’s the adults within the family or close family friends who need to step up

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5 ideas of how you can help a child who has lost their Mum on Mother’s Day

  • Show that you are open to talking and let them know you empathise with how they are feeling.
  • They may find a journal useful, to work through their emotions and help with the grieving process.
  • For younger children, a book may be more suitable. There are many which help explain loss, and also books to help understand emotions.
  • They may like to mark the occasion and would appreciate celebrating their mum, looking through pictures, visiting favourite places, perhaps taking flowers to her grave and talking to her for a while.
  • Alternatively they may prefer to do an activity on the actual day to help keep their mind busy.

These are just a few ideas for Mother’s Day,  but if you are supporting a grieving child and have questions then please visit Winston’s Wish – a charity dedicated to supporting children or young people who have lost a parent or sibling.

If you would like to take a look at our bereavement gifts then please visit our shop page.

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